What if failure isn’t?
Yes. It is a bit cryptic. It’s meant to be.
What if those times that we feel like we’ve flunked, we haven’t?
What if what’s happened is simply a big nudge for making an improvement on what we’ve been doing up until now?
I reckon that the only way to fail is to quit.
What’s your definition of failure?
I have plenty of examples in my life of times when I’ve totally spat the proverbial dummy and then picked it back up again. that the dead-cert failure, wasn’t.
To me – it’s the 3-second rule. In fact, let’s make it the 3-minute or 3-hour rule or even 3-day rule when it comes to this because I’m with my #1 mentor of all time – Dr Denis Waitley on this one – when he talks about failure being fertiliser.
Sometimes (in fact more often than not), the best thing for me to do is to stop getting my knickers in a twist, take a chill-pill, step back, and realise actually maybe all is not lost and in fact, it’s more about me being out of sorts about it rather than the wheels have fallen off.
Chris – my hubby – is a master at this. For him, it’s about no longer listening to that doom-and-gloom-inner-story we may be making up to tell ourselves and realise that actually maybe it’s not as bad as I thought and I can pick up the pieces and learn from it.
A prime example for me is from the days I competed at national level playing classic guitar. Sometimes I was so embarrassed (or so I felt at the time) from having completely flunked out.
In fact, I can remember in my grade 8 guitar exam, there was a part when I needed to play a brand new piece – sight unseen.
I made a total mess of it. It was laughable.
It was so bad that I actually asked if it was ok for me to play it again? The examiner looked slightly stunned for a moment, smiled, and then said sure!
I actually passed and passed really well. That was a great lesson for me in keep going – all may not be lost!
I’d love to hear from you about maybe an example of flunking out – which ended up not being as bad as you thought it was.
Until I see you on this week’s #alivewithfi – have a fab week 🙂
1 Throughout my very many failures, I came away with some important lessons, lessons that I wanted to share with all of you. I know how hard it was to move through and past failure. And I know that if you’re going through it right now, literally, I feel for you. Because I know just how much it hurts.
Still, lessons learned through failure are some of the most invaluable lessons you could possibly garner in life.
https://www.verywellmind.com/delayed-gratification-why-wait-for-what-you-want-2795429
“21 Important Lessons Learned From Failure” R.L. Adams (n.d.)
Fi Jamieson-Folland D.O., I.N.H.C., is The LifeStyle Aligner. She’s an experienced practitioner since 1992 in Europe, Asia and New Zealand as a qualified Osteopath, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, speaker, educator, writer, certified raw vegan gluten-free chef, and Health Brand Ambassador.
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